A True Inspiring Story: An Overcomer!

Hey everyone! I am so excited for you all to read this post, and to get to know Brian. Brian reached out to me via Instagram (when I had it) earlier this year to be a guest blogger on my site. He shared his story with me, and after reading it...it was a no brainer! Brian has a TBI as well, but he never gave up and he truly pushes me to be everything I desire to be. I will let him tell you his story! 

He also wrote a book that you can buy here !

Charles Dickens wrote in a Tale of Two Cities, “It was the best of times, and it was the worst of times.”  Well, in the spring of 1998 at the University of Kentucky, life could not get much better than this!  The University of Kentucky Wildcats were well on their way to becoming national champions, and I was bound to graduate from this University.  After graduation comes what’s next scenario.  Time to get a job and pay off these bills.  That next weekend after visiting with my parents and deciding to pursue a profession in the IT field alongside my father, I felt my destiny was set.  I headed back to my second home to prepare for my next big adventure.

“Life happens while making plans.”  A quote by John Lennon.  Arriving back in Lexington, I was exhausted from the time I spent with my parents.  I laid on my couch to take a nap, however, a sudden pain was nagging in the back of my head.  The pain became excruciating and so severe that I ran to the bathroom and became sick and passed out!  My brother arrived on the scene and discovered me in the bathroom.  He called 911.  An ambulance rushed to the apartment, put me on a stretcher, and escorted me to the nearest hospital.  End of story.

Or is this just the beginning.  On that fateful day I suffered what is called an A.V.M. in the optical region of my brain.  A.V.M. stands for Arteriovenous Malformation.  Our body is made up of arteries and veins, our own natural plumbing system that delivers oxygenated blood to tissue and deoxygenated blood away.  These “pipes” got tangled in the back of my brain causing the blood to clot and put pressure on my brain.  The doctors told my parents that I have a fifty to fifty percent chance of survival and if I do survive, more than likely I will be catatonic, blind and or a vegetable.  Time out.  I just graduated from college.  I had dreams, plans, and goals.  Now suddenly, life became about survival.


“The past is dead and there is no need to resurrect it.”-Herman Melville.  I do love quotes.  I have documented and published my story in a book entitled “Don’t Give Up, Don’t Ever Give Up” on Amazon.com.  Rehabilitation was difficult, but I survived.  Asked by a friend about my rehab after my injury, my reply was simply, “I am still rehabilitating.”  This injury happened nearly twenty years ago on May 17th.  I am fit and healthy.  I am working on becoming a certified personal trainer with a goal of helping soldiers coming home with T.B.I. and P.T.S.D.  I exercise regularly to keep my mind focused.  Remember the doctor who told my parents I will never be able to walk?  I have run and completed four full marathons and twelve half marathons with more on the horizon.  I also watch what I eat.  I prepare my food with the goal of helping to heal my body and my brain.  Lots of fish, vegetables and fruits.  Anything and everything that I think is natural.  Finally, and probably the hardest thing that I do to help myself heal, is to get quiet.  I meditate twice a day ten minutes each.  Focusing on my breath and only my breath.  Doing this can take me to a place that I never want to leave.  It helps me to bring peace. In a world that has become too loud, the peace that I seek is especially important.  The Buddha once said, “Life is difficult.” Don’t believe your Facebook friends or Instagram contacts.  Life can be a beast. However, once you know that life can be difficult, suddenly life becomes easy.  Stay strong, don’t quit, and never, ever give up.